Monday, October 5, 2009

One year ago today.

One year ago today, I stood at the pulpit of my parish in Fresno and read the following statement:

As most of you know, I was appointed pastor here at the Newman Center on April 15th of this year. When I arrived, I set out to address a series of various projects to repair our facilities. To date, most of these deferred maintenance items have been addressed. In the middle of dealing with contractors, the parish finance committee, the building department of the diocese, neighbors, etc., I received a FAX from the bishop’s office on the 30th of June. It was the bishop’s pastoral letter for the month of July.

This single FAX threw my whole summer, and in fact, my whole life into a turmoil. Recently, I was speaking with some of our parishioners who advocate for the ordination of women. In the course of our conversation, a question arose which has haunted me: “At what point do you cease to be an agent for healing and growth and become an accomplice of injustice?” By asking all of the pastors of the Diocese of Fresno to promote Catholics to vote “Yes” on Proposition 8, the bishop has placed me in a moral predicament.

In his “Pastoral,” the bishop states: “Marriage is much more than simply two persons loving each other. Marriage is naturally, socially, and biologically, directed to bringing forth life.”

Actually, there are TWO ends to marriage: 1) Unitive and 2) Procreative. The unitive end of marriage is simply a union of love and life. The Procreative end is, of course, to create new life. It is important to understand that the unitive end of marriage is sufficient for a valid marriage. The Church sanctions, and considers a sacrament, the marriage of elderly heterosexual couples who are biologically incapable of reproduction. So, if two people of different genders who are incapable of reproduction can enter into a valid marriage, then why is it that two people of the same gender, who are incapable of reproduction, cannot enter into a valid marriage?

The objections which are raised at this point are taken from Sacred Scripture. Scripture scholars reveal the problematic nature of attempting to use passages from the Hebrew Scriptures as an argument against same gender relationships. Essentially, these scriptures are addressing the cultic practices in which sex with temple prostitutes was part of an act of worshiping Pagan gods. With regard to the Pauline epistles, John J. McNeill, in his book: “The Church and the Homosexual,” makes the following point: “The persons referred to in Romans 1:26 are probably not homosexuals that is, those who are psychologically inclined toward their own sex—since they are portrayed as ‘abandoning their natural customs.’” The Pauline epistles do not explicitly treat the question of homosexual activity between two persons who share a homosexual orientation, and as such cannot be read as explicitly condemning such behavior. Therefore, same gender sex by two individuals with same sex orientation is not “abandoning their natural custom.”

In 1973, as a result of a greater understanding of human psychology, the American Psychological Association declassified homosexuality as a mental illness. In 1975, the Sacred Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (the Church’s watchdog for orthodoxy) produced a document entitled: “Declaration on Certain Questions Concerning Sexual Ethics.” In this document, they made the most remarkable statement. They stated that there are “homosexuals who are such because of some kind of innate instinct.” While these statements are hardly glowing affirmations of gay and lesbian persons, they represent a watershed in human perception and understanding of gay and lesbian people.

These new insights have occurred as a result of the birth and development of the science of psychology and understanding of brain development in the 19th and 20th centuries. The California Supreme Court cited and quoted an amicus brief filed by the APA in the Court’s opinion issued on May 15, 2008 that struck down California’s ban on same sex marriage. Specifically, the court relied on the APA’s brief in concluding that the very nature of sexual orientation is related to the gender of partners to whom one is attracted, so that prohibiting same sex marriage discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation, rather than just imposing disparate burdens on gay people.

In directing the faithful to vote “Yes” on Proposition 8, the California Bishops are not merely entering the political arena, they are ignoring the advances and insights of neurology, psychology and the very statements made by the Church itself that homosexuality is innate (i.e. orientation). In doing this, they are making a statement which has a direct, and damaging, effect on some of the people who may be sitting in the pews next to you today. The statement made by the bishop reaffirms the feelings of exclusion and alienation that are suffered by individuals and their loved ones who have left the Church over this very issue. Imagine what hearing such damaging words at Mass does to an adolescent who has just discovered that he/she is gay/lesbian? What is the hierarchy saying to him/her? What are they demanding from that individual? What would it have meant to you personally to hear from the pulpit at church that you could never date? Never fall in love, never kiss or hold hands with another person? Never be able to marry? How would you view yourself? How would others hearing those same words be directed to view you? How would you view your life and your future? How would you feel when you saw a car with a “Yes on 8” bumper sticker? When you overheard someone in a public place use the word “faggot?”

I remember the first time I heard that word, faggot, I was hanging out with my cousins. They all played on the football team of the Catholic high school in our town. One of them spat out the word in the form of a curse. I was just a kid in the 5th grade, I’d never heard the word before, and so I asked: “What’s a faggot?” A faggot is a guy who likes other guys, was the curt reply. Now pause. Think. What would those words mean to someone in junior high school who discovers that he/she is attracted to people of their same gender? The greatest fear that he/she would have is that they would be rejected by the people they love the most—their family. So, their solution is to try to pass as straight, deceive, and in effect—lie. Of course, this leads ultimately to self loathing. It should come as little surprise that gay teenagers have elevated suicide rates. According to the Center for Disease Control’s Youth Risk Behavior Survey (1999), 33% of gay youth will attempt suicide.

The bishop states: “The Church has spoken out constantly that those with a homosexual orientation must be respected with the dignity of every child of God. Every individual is created in the image and likeness of God and should never be subjected to prejudice or hatred.” A pious thought uttered by a cleric, robbed of any substantive meaning, as the executioner begins his work. Only a few select people actually read those documents. What most Catholics hear about being gay or lesbian at their parish church is--silence. A numbing silence, which slowly and insidiously tells them, “You don’t belong here, this is not for you, and you are not welcome.” It is not the crude overt vulgarity of some churches. But rather, it is the coldness of a maitre d’ who simply won’t seat you, or the club which has put you on a waiting list with no intention of allowing you to join. And simply asks you to wait in polite almost, apologetic tones.

In effect, the bishops are asking gay and lesbian people to live their lives alone. Why? Who does this benefit? How exactly is society helped by singling out a minority and excluding them from the union of love and life, which is marriage? How is marriage protected by intimidating gay and lesbian people into loveless and lonely lives? What is accomplished by this? Worse still, is to intimidate a gay or lesbian person into a heterosexual marriage, which is doomed from its inception, and makes two victims instead of one by this hurtful “theology.” This “theology,” which is parroted by clerics in polished tones from pulpits, produces the very prejudice and hatred in our society which they claim to abhor.

When the hierarchy prohibited artificial birth control, most of the faithful in the United States, Canada and Europe scratched their heads in wonderment and proceeded to ignore them. There is an expression in theology: “the voice of the people is the voice of God.” If your son or daughter is gay/lesbian let them know that you love them unconditionally. Let them know that you are not ashamed or embarrassed by them. Guide them as you would your other children to finding true and abiding love. Let them know that marriage is a union of love and life and is possible for them too.

I do not presume to tell you how to vote but I do ask that you pray to the Creator of us all. Think and consider the effects of your vote on others, especially minorities in our society who are sitting next to you in church, and at work. The act of casting a vote takes you a few minutes but it can cause other human beings untold happiness or sorrow for a lifetime. It can grant them hope and acceptance, or it can cause them to lose civil rights. It can be a rebuff to bigotry and hatred, or it can encourage bigotry and hatred. Personally, I am morally compelled to vote “NO” on Proposition 8. It is my hope that the people of California will join with those others around the world such as Canada, Europe and South Africa who welcome their gay and lesbian family members fully into society by granting them the civil right to marry.

I know these words of truth will cost me dearly. But to withhold them, would be far more costly and I would become an accomplice to a moral evil that strips gay and lesbian people not only of their civil rights but of their human dignity as well. Jesus said, “The truth will set you free.” He didn't promise that it would be easy or without personal cost to speak that truth.

I made the preceding statement as a response to what was then, and sadly remains today a fundamentally unjust and discriminatory stance towards LGBT people by the Catholic hierarchy and others. In tomorrow’s post, I will review what has happened this past year in the cause to rectify injustice.


Michael Fullam said...

You are awesome Father Geoff. I am going to write about you in my own blog tomorrow!

joemar said...

It takes a real man, a courageous man of God to stand up for what is right and just. Thank you Father Geoff Farrow. I left the Roman Catholic Church in 2004 and became Anglican/Episcopal after many years of guilt, shame and hate, being taught I was going to hell, inspite of my love and dedication to God (the Father), Jesus Christ (the Son), and the Holy Spirit. I know today at age 55 it is not about the church, it is about God, it is about what we can bring to the plate, it is about what would Jesus do. Love and blessings, Joe

Fr. Marty Kurylowicz said...

Thank you for your courage and especially your strong faith, a year ago today. You and all of California ignited a fire of justice that had spread around the globe for Marriage Equality. All that sunshine in Californian had not gone to waste on all the LGBTQ supporters. The fact that you all didn’t win on Prop 8 I think only made the rest of us all that more determined to work harder to win all around the world. You show us that it could be possible. California did not lose by a lot it was quite close. California has been shining bright ever since. Anaheim was a true win in faith. The Episcopal Church out did Disneyland and things will never be the same. God love and bless all who were in involved that place will remain a holy for a long time.

With all good wishes,

The Gospel According to Hate said...

Happy Anniversary, Geoff!

My five year just passed in May. While life as non-practicing priest may be tough at times, it's great to know I have you on the journey with me.

Here's to many better, freer and more authentic years ahead!

Jackie said...

I think that Fr. Marty is so right. Your courage a year ago and your bravery during this past year has ignited a flame of hope that LGBT Americans will find justice and equality. You are such an inspiration.
Thank you and may God fill your life with love and happiness.

William D. Lindsey said...

You remain a constant inspiration to me, Fr. Geoff. Thank you for having not only the courage but the mere human decency to speak out in a church that severely punishes those who display mere human decency to gay and lesbian persons.

Birdie said...

Your courage and your words continue to have positive repercussions which you may never fully realize. You have started a current that cannot be held. If you did nothing more, it would be enough for one man. That you continue this fight is a testament to your faith and to God, to whom is given all the glory. Bless you and your work, Father Geoff.

Mareczku said...

Your words have touched me Father Geoff and I am also touched by the words here. I thank God for all the faithful gay priests that serve us and hope that one day all can openly serve without fear of hatred. Joemar, I must tell you that as a Catholic I am thankful that was never taught guilt about who I was or shame and hate either. I was never taught that gay people were going to hell. I was taught that we were all brothers and sisters in Christ and that God didn't make junk. We were taught that we were all lovable and that God loved us as we were. I feel bad for those that have suffered for being made to feel they were disordered or sub-human. I am thankful that most of the time growing up I was treated with respect.

Jackie said...

It seems to me Fr. Geoff, that the Church has created a class of " spiritual Martyrs" in you and many other non practicing priests. Through their lack of love, support and caring plus their homophobia and unkindness, they have dishonored your Holy Orders. I can't imagine that God is pleased with such utter disregard for this Holy Sacrament. I hope that there will be a day when you are able to serve God again in the way that He intended for you to serve.
For now, of course, you are serving Him with Truth and Love.

Mareczku said...

Father Geoff, thank you for your witness and courage. Father Marty Kurylowicz, I just checked out your site and was blown away by some of your comments. Thank God that we have someone like you in our Church that is willing to fight for the truth. Thinking of how you stand up for innocent kids has touched my heart greatly. May God bless you and Father Geoff in your work and keep you ever faithful to Our Lord and His people.

Joe-sf said...

Great sermon. I wish more christians would take your advice. I, too, am a strong advocate for gay marriage. I feel that our message has been rather meek, so I made a short video on YouTube.

Thanks again Geoff. Your courage is empowering.